The definitive guide
to creating the sex life
of your                               
— just by talking about it! — 
from sexpert couple
Vanessa and Xander Marin.

wildest dreams

Release date: FEBRUARY 7, 2023

The definitive guide to creating the sex life of your                               
— just by talking about it! —  from sexpert couple Vanessa and Xander Marin.

wildest dreams

You know communication is important in a relationship, but you just don’t know how to get started with such a sensitive subject. Maybe you’ve never talked about sex at all, and the thought of it makes your palms sweat. Or you’re feeling so disconnected from your partner that sex is the last thing on your mind. Maybe you’re too scared to be honest about what you really want. Or you have no freaking clue what you want, so you’re not sure how to tell your partner anything helpful!

Sex Talks is here to change that. Together, sex therapist Vanessa Marin and her husband, Xander, show you that the best thing you can do for your sex life doesn’t even involve taking off your clothes. Sex Talks guides you through the five essential conversations every couple needs to have to create an extraordinary sex life. You’ll discover how to:

  • Get comfortable and even have fun talking about sex
  • Stay emotionally connected
  • Turn each other on
  • Make each other feel good
  • Keep the spark alive for life

You’ll come away with a richer understanding of your needs and desires, and practical ways to create deeper intimacy with your partner.

With storytelling that ranges from tear jerking to laugh out loud funny, Vanessa and Xander take an intimate peek at what really goes on behind other couples’ closed bedroom doors. Sex Talks gives you the sex education you wish you’d had, the reassurance that you’re normal and not alone, and the tried-and-tested tools you need to create the sex life you deserve.
Why is it so hard to talk about sex, even with the person who regularly sees you naked?

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accompanying digital workbook upon book release

have these essential conversations!

"Sex Talks is a terrific book. Finally here's a book that recognizes that most sex issues are a result of the lack of communication. The book beautifully guides the essential conversation we all need to have about sex. Furthermore, it helps us overcome the myths that drag down on us."

john gottman

Author of The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work

your frequently  asked questions

your frequently asked questions

We know, preorders are weird! To be totally honest, neither of us had ever preordered a book before, so we didn’t understand the point. We just bought books when they had been released.

But we’ve since learned that preorders are crucial for your book’s success. The average book only sells 500 copies, so publishers won’t invest much into a book unless they see a lot of preorders. If you preorder, we’ll be able to get it into more bookstores and retailers. Your preorders also help us land big press appearances so we can promote the book and get it in front of more couples. And they’re the only way to make the bestseller lists. 

We know this book is going to change lives, and we want to do everything we can to get it in front of as many people as possible. 

You preordering the book is the absolute best way to support us. As a thank you for your support, we’re giving you a ton of freebies and surprises with your preorder of the hardcover!
This is another strange thing about books that we’ve only recently discovered. Only the hardcover “counts” as a presale in the publishing world. 

We understand and respect that everyone has different preferences for their books. Unfortunately, we don’t have any ability to change the system. That’s why we’re focusing on hardcover presales, and making our bonus gift package an incredible value (even if you never open up the hardcover!).

If you’re not a hardcover person yourself, you could always buy it as a gift for a friend or loved one!
After preordering your book, make sure to come back to this page and enter your purchase information in step 2. Once we’ve received and checked your submission, you’ll receive all your bonus gifts via email.

If you don’t see it in your inbox, email us at [email protected].

Vanessa’s a licensed psychotherapist with 20 years of experience in the sex therapy field. Xander’s a regular dude who’s been married to a sex therapist for over a decade. (Which makes him very popular at parties!)

Our mission is to take the intimidation out of getting intimate.

We’re here to make you laugh and give you the courage to talk openly about intimacy, so you can have more fun in and out of the bedroom.

meet the authors

Vanessa & Xander Marin

Please send media/press inquires to [email protected].